Some Do’s And Don’t’s When Looking For Love
If you are single and looking for love, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea of being in a relationship. But, here are some do’s and don’t’s when searching.
Dr. Tara Fields has some basic advice for singles looking for a relationship or those looking to keep a relationship.
Don’t fall in love with someone’s potential.
Too many men and women choose someone with hopes that the other person will change. Do be honest with yourself and ask: “Can I love this person exactly the way they are now without the expectation of change?” If not, find someone else.
Don’t confuse attraction with love.
In a rush to feel close, create a false intimacy, which can lead to disappointment. Do take time to create a genuine emotional connection and allow a passion for each other to grow.
Don’t overlook the red flags out of desperation to have a relationship.
For example: If he makes a statement like, “I don’t do commitment well,” Believe him! Do ask yourself, “Is this person really available emotionally and situationally?” (Believe it or not, people tend to spend more time researching a VCR purchase than their potential relationship.)
Don’t take your partner for granted.
When couples get past the honeymoon stage, they often become complacent with each other. Do continue romancing one another throughout the relationship, not just in the beginning stages. For example: make a standing “date night” once a week.
I know it’s easier said than done so hopefully these do’s and don’t’s will help you stay focused in finding “The One”!
[via: Dr. Tara Fields]